Mark Rodriguez had a huge heart for the orphaned and oppressed.
Since it is National Adoption Awareness Month, we will take a few posts
to talk about the many ways one can help address the problem of children
who are living without families.
When I first met The Wiedmaier family I was struck by how well their family worked together. In fact, they loved each other so well I actually thought two of the four kids were foster children...not because they were treated differently, but because they were all treated the same! I thought this for an entire year until Sam (their 7th grader) looked at me like I was crazy when I asked how one of his sisters was doing adjusting to the new home. He said "um...she's fine. I mean she has been with us her whole life." Well, I feel silly! Seriously though, it is a testament to how this family completely embraced and loved their foster child. Not easy, but absolutely beautiful. JD shares his experience below:
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How did
you know your family was supposed to foster a child?
Sandi and I had contemplated fostering for years
and then the Lord gave us a nudge...Sandi volunteers at a small school in
Norfolk that works with at risk kids. One of the little girl's home fell
apart and she became a ward of the state as a result. The administrator
of the school asked Sandi and I if we would consider becoming the foster family
for this little girl. We had ongoing discussions with our kids about the
prospects of fostering and went through the city's vetting process to become
foster parents while all along seeking God's lead through prayer.
What has surprised you in the
process?
Kids really are quite resilient. With love,
structure and discipline they can turn it around. You would think once a
child heads down the wrong path for too long it would be next to impossible to
turn around but that is not necessarily the case. A hopeful future can spring out of a dark past with God
involved.
What has been the most positive
thing? Or things?
We want our kids to grow up and have a heart for
helping "the least of these". What better way to give them
experience than to do it as a family. Really helping people takes
sacrifice and hard work, but in the end it is all worth it. Seeing our
kids start to get this principal and develop a heart to help is
beautiful. We also want our children to understand that all people,
regardless of color, culture or status, are beautiful creations of God.
Our extended family has also been amazing! Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and
cousins have all loved on our foster child. In addition to leaving a parent(s) when removed from their
home, the child is also leaving grandparents, cousins and friends. It has been sweet seeing other family
members embracing this child as a true member of our family. Sam, Meredith and Morgan also have
great friends who have included her in many activities. Other adults speaking words of
encouragement and offering grace when it was not due has been truly
wonderful. Having someone say “She
just fits with your family” has been very rewarding.
On Easter Sunday 2015, our foster child asked us to
lead her in prayer so she could ask Jesus into her heart. As a family, we sat on the bed and
asked her questions and then prayed with her. We all wrote a memory from that day in her journal.
What have some of the challenges been?
A foster child, just like our foster child, needs
lots of attention to get on track. When a child has lived in an
unstable structure for several years, they are hurting in many ways and it
manifests itself with poor behavior. It takes a lot of parenting energy
to help the child get back on track. At times, Sandi and I feel like at
least 75% of our parenting energy is poured into the foster child and yet we
have 3 biological children that need attention as well.
Our vision going into this was one of
community. A community of
teachers, friends and family coming together to provide a safe
environment. While most of our
neighbors were welcoming and loving to our new family member, our family did
receive some unkindness towards our foster child. Negotiating the relational challenges this created, has been
part of the journey.
What
would you tell people considering being foster parents?
Imagine what it might be like to be a foster
child. Your home is unstable. You might not have food, clothing or
shelter. Maybe you are mistreated
and then removed from everything you know. How scared and confused would you be? Who is this family that is going to
take me in? This child does not
need judgment, she needs love, grace, instruction and a chance.
If you
could tell your Foster child what you most want her to remember from her time
with you, what would it be?
You are a beautiful child with amazing
potential. The only way for that beauty and potential to continue to rise
to the surface is to seek and honor God.
Wiedmaiers...You are the Super Good of God in the world. So blessed to get to watch your sweet foster child blossom in your care!
